If walking this walk with my beloved Archie broke open my heart, then walking this walk with my mother is cleansing my soul. Mom’s not eating more than a few bites a day now. When she stops completely we will know to start preparations for her burial. I think I am ready. My heart is … More A Holy Moment
A post on Craig’s List reminded me of a sofa table I had before Archie died. I remembered the feeling I had about the table before I remembered what it looked like and I struggled to come up with an image. A matching buffet and dining room table from the same Thomasville grouping came to … More Memories
How did I ever find a man who was absolutely OK with whatever is? Not just on the good days either. No matter what the circumstance or challenge Tom remains cool, calm, present and solution oriente… Source: Finding Izzy
January 22, 2017 Dear 45, I want you to know that you are not the last misogynistic man that women will let get away with dominating them. That was the guy before you in our lives. You are the one we will not let get away with taking away our rights. Many of us, … More Dear 45
My 93 year old mother and I had a chat at her kitchen table today. Mom was complaining that she wasn’t getting well fast enough. She was going on and on about being so tired she just couldn’t stand it and then she went through an extensive list of grievances that she had about things … More The End Game
The Last Dance When I arrived at my mother’s today she was slouched in her living room chair dozing in the most uncomfortable looking position. As she noticed me coming in the front door, she began to tell me that she had had a really bad night and was very tired. Mom came around a … More A Day In The Life (of my 94 year-old parents)
Has anyone considered the possibility that someone can be totally homophobic and not be a bigot? Recently it was reported that many of Trump’s key positions on his cabinet have been filled with people who are against the progress that has been made on LGBT issues. What does that mean? Does that have to mean … More Can we all work together, please?
I wake up in the morning and, after a cup of coffee shared with my darling, I walk the dogs around the pond for their morning treat. Later, after starting a load of laundry or some picking up, I begin to prepare to head to my parents house for the daily visit. I try to … More Conscious Dying
A friend posted this quote on Face Book the other day: “I would rather have a mind opened by Wonder than a mind closed by belief.” I saw those words and began to ponder if there was truth in them for me. It seems that wonder leaves us smack in the middle of the Mystery. … More Wonder: An argument for prayer whether you believe in God or not.
In 2009 I began developing the equine therapy program that would become the central focus of my career as a substance abuse counselor. Little did I know then what a powerful, effective treatment modality it would become! Back then I didn’t know about “limbic resonance” or that this was the event that made the sessions … More Giving It Away